April - May 2004
Letters to the Editor
From: Kumudini D. Valambhia
Advantages Of Marriage By Introduction
The problem our youngsters are having in finding a life partner is a timely reminder
to our community how well the system of marriage by introduction has served our
Hindu community. It should not be confused with the old tradition of arranged
marriages, which was practised mainly among our community in East Africa and
India, during the post war era, where the participants, especially the girls
were more or less denied the right of refusal.
In sharp contrast, the system of marriage by introduction only brings boys
and girls together. They go out several times and assess the strength and weaknesses,
likes and dislikes of each other before the knot is tied and the union become
permanent. So often boys are introduced to many girls and the girls have equal
right to say "No" to any one they may feel is not a right partner for them.
This system brings together boys and girls of equal stature, such as a doctor
may prefer another doctor, a nurse or a pharmacist while an accountant may
choose someone working in a financial environment. This gives stability, equal
opportunity, similar background and assimilation of lifestyle and therefore,
the rate of divorce in our community is much lower than the national average.
May I be brave and say it brings happiness and contentment in the lives of
Another pattern that is emerging is that our children are finding their own
partners while at college. As our children are kind, caring, intelligent and
duty bound, most of them select their life partners who meet the approval of
their parents, as they are Hindus and Gujaratis but not necessarily from their
They are uniting our community and breaking the much maligned caste system
that used to divide our Hindu community. It is even more heartening to note
that more and more of our youngsters find their partners in the Punjabi Hindu
and Sikh community, thus creating a harmonious and mellifluous atmosphere between
this two dominant ethnic minorities in UK.
However, it has its shortfalls as well. Some are marrying too young, some
while they are still at college and financially dependent on their parents.
This may cause a problem when they come out from their college and enter the
job market, especially when there is a recession and jobs are scarce. Another
worrying aspect is that our youngsters are going after grand marriages, often
costing thousands of pounds but fortunately now a days the cost is shared by
both the families and no longer a sole responsibility of the girl's family.
We recently attended a marriage reception, held in a grand hotel, with some
one thousand guests, where the bride arrived by helicopter and the champagne
was drunk like water. As both the parties were millionaire, the cost did not
matter. However, I cannot help thinking how many schools and health clinics
could be built in our motherland Bharat from the money lavishly spent on just
|From: Mr. Rajinder Chopra
|Honouring Lal Bahadur Shastri (1904 - 1966)
We are delighted to learn that this year (2nd Oct 2003 -2nd October 2004),
India will be celebrating the birth centenary of the second Prime minister
of India, Shri Lal Bahadur Shastri.
The late lal Bahadur Shastri was a true patriot, secular and man of integrity.
He made us proud by his resolute leadership during the 1965 Indo-Pak war
and restroing the Indian honour by addressing the victorious Indian soldiers
on the outskirts of Lahore, Pakistan.
He was also a person of great vision who inspired the farmers through green
revolution and made India not only self-sufficient in food but also ensured
that some other countries could benefit as well.
As a British Hindu, I believe that this great personality who inspired
the soldiers and farmers of India by his simple but effective slogan "Jai
Jawan Jai Kisan" and who also shares the same birthdate as the Mahatma,
should be remembered in all functions connected with Gandhi Jayanti. He
should also be honoured by naming jos borti as Shastri Nagar.Hoping that
the Centenary celebrations may become a source of inspiration to all
|From: Mohan K. Parashara
|General Comments & Observations
After coming back from India, I read India Link Diwali Issue and the Dec03/Jan04
Issue. In both the issues, under Business Forum Section, the contributions
made by P. Venkataramana under the titles, "The Living Spirit" and "No
Man's Wealth" were very inspiring.
Also I must add here, I always like to read Sashanka Banerjee's contributions
under Politics Section. He always gives wealth of historical information
and interesting commentary. Please convey my appreciation and good wishes
My Good Wishes to you, and to contributors and readers of India Link magazine.
Mohan K Parashara
|Korea Tourist Office, London SW1
|Seoul - Soul Of South Korea
Thank you for sending me your very informative magazine containing article
entitled 'Seoul: Soul of South Korea.' I very much enjoyed reading the
well-written travel feature, and I think Krishan Dutt has captured the
essence of the City very well.
I am glad Mr Dutt had the opportunity to visit Seoul and write about it
in your magazine. I hope your readers will follow in your Chief Reporter's
footsteps and visit Korea.
|General Comments & Observations
I wish to say something about the India Link issue of Dec-Jan04. The article
'No man's Wealth' by Mr Venkataramana does not seem to deal with anything
particular except the confused metaphysics of the South Indian fashion.
It s also an example of our Indian hypocrisy. We want wealth and good life
without having to go through the hard work and tough reality of creating
wealth through sheer hard work. I think this article was of rather poor
quality and took some valuable space of your journal. It is not readable.
|Dr. S.K. Das
|Surrey, United Kingdom
|Is Pakistan A Threat?
In the light of the recent revelations made by escaping Pakistani nuclear
scientists, it was very interesting to see the role of General Musharraf
of Pakistan in proliferating nuclear technologies to nations clearly labelled
as 'rogue' and 'evil' by the US. It looks as if he is slowly unveiling
himself and h is compatriots as being the very thing that the US and Britain
claim to be fighting to destroy. General Muwsharraf 's accomplices include
Benazir Bhutto and General Zia-ul-Huq as well as many high-ranking members
of the Pakistani government and military. There have also been suggestions
of the heavy involvement of the Pakistani ISI (Intelligence services),
which may have close ties to international terror groups.
All this has been going on under the noses of the West whilst General Musharraf
has been extending his right hand to India in peace and telling the US
'not to worry' as' he is there to help remove all the baddies in Pakistan
and the Middle East. It looks like the time has come for the US and Britain
to put thieir money where their mouths are and actually do something to
stop the flagrant proliferation of weapons of mass destruction around the
Failure to properly and finally deal with pakistan's flagrant breaking
of international law will not only make the US and Britain a laughing stock
in the eyes of the world, but will also give a clear signal to dangerous
nations such as Iran, North Korea, Syria, Libya and even potentially dangerous
places such as parts of Malaysia and Sri Lanka that it is OK for them to
develop nuclear arms as long as they don't get in the way of the interests
of US oil companies.
Return to April - May 2004 contents